Choices

I've been thinking about how the choices we make affect our lives.  Everything we do involves making a choice.  You choose what to eat, where to go, whom to hang out with.  You choose where to live, what to wear, when to do things.  Some choices are good, others are bad.  Sometimes choices are made for you.  Sometimes you wonder if you made the right choice.

Think about where you live.  When you"re young, generally the choice is made for you, you live with parents or guardians.  As you get older though, you start to have choices.  Stay where you grew up and are comfortable, or move on to a new location, possibly where you know nobody and start anew?  It's a big choice--it's easy to stay where you know people and places.  Nothing wrong with that at all.  Nothing wrong with moving on either.  Kind of how the country was expanded.

My Dad used to say you pick your friends, you're stuck with your relatives.  Pick your friends well.  I would hope you would choose as friends people you can depend on.  People you can laugh with, discuss things with.  People you can disagree with, even argue with and fight with and still remain friends.  Sometimes it is difficult to keep friendships alive.  Sadly, sometimes friendships end--people and feelings change through different experiences.  Some people grow, others grow in different directions.

You choose your career.  Some people have greater opportunities, and therefore more choices.  Make your choice wisely.  You may think the high paying high profile career may make you happy.  Make sure you know what it is that makes you happy.  Some choose a more simpler life, where they know what they will be doing everyday.  Maybe more time for family or friends.  I know people who have high paying high profile jobs, and while they may have more "stuff" than I do, I would argue I'm just as happy (or more so) than they are.  Maybe I'm wrong.  Maybe not.

Probably your most important choice is who you choose to go through life with, your spouse or significant other.  You'd be best off to choose someone you like as a person, someone you can trust, someone who makes you a better person.  Infatuation fades.  Something you thought was cute at 20 gets old by 25.  Hopefully you are going to spend a lot of time with this person.  Choose someone to share your life experiences with you.  I think it's a lot more fun that way.

Life is full of choices, obviously some much more important than others.  If you are able to make more good choices than bad I'm pretty sure things will work out.  They always seem to, one way or another.